Upcoming Classes & Events Listing

The following is a list of upcoming classes, events, and other Tool Shed happenings.

All events are held at 2427 N. Murray Ave., two blocks north of North Ave. near the intersection of North and Farwell, unless otherwise noted.

The Tool Shed's detailed guidelines around classes and events (including our policies around cancellation, refunds, waiting lists, etc.) can be read here.


Tool Shed Book Club
Sunday, March 1, 5:00 pm
March book selection:
Pleasure Activism by adrienne maree brown

Book description:
How do we make social justice the most pleasurable human experience? How can we awaken within ourselves desires that make it impossible to settle for anything less than a fulfilling life? Author and editor adrienne maree brown finds the answer in something she calls "pleasure activism," a politics of healing and happiness that explodes the dour myth that changing the world is just another form of work. Drawing on black feminist tradition, she challenges us to rethink the ground rules of activism. Her mindset-altering essays are interwoven with conversations and insights from other feminist thinkers, including Audre Lorde, Joan Morgan, Cara Page, Sonya Renee Taylor, and Alexis Pauline Gumbs. Together they cover a wide array of subjects-- from sex work to climate change, from race and gender to sex and drugs-- building new narratives about how politics can feel good and how what feels good always has a complex politics of its own.

Building on the success of her popular Emergent Strategy, brown launches a new series of the same name with this volume, bringing readers books that explore experimental, expansive, and innovative ways to meet the challenges that face our world today.

Event description:
Each month the Tool Shed book club meets to discuss a book or other piece of writing that sheds light on sexuality today. Book club meetings are hosted by the Tool Shed staff, and we pick different readings based on group interests. Participants are welcome on a drop-in basis; a monthly commitment is not necessary. Please join us!

Upcoming book club selections are available for 20% off the cover price at the Tool Shed. Please help support the Tool Shed by purchasing your book club books with us!

This is a FREE event. Pre-registration is not necessary.


Tea Time
Sunday, March 8, 10:00 am - noon
Special shopping hours for trans and non-binary customers & their loved ones

Sometimes trans and nonbinary customers have in-depth questions about our products that can be hard to fully address during the everyday hustle and bustle of the Tool Shed’s regular store hours. Tea Time offers a relaxed space for trans and non-binary folks to ask questions and learn in a more focused environment. Partners and loved ones of trans and non-binary people are also welcome during Tea Time.

Tea Time is held on the 2nd Sunday of each month from 10:00 am to noon.

This event is free, no pre-registration required.


Kink Curious? Navigating the Complexities
with Sir Wieland and Cat
Tuesday, March 10, 8:30 pm

Milwaukee favorites Sir Wieland and Cat are back to discuss some practical BDSM basics. We'll talk about personal safety, meeting new people in the local kink community, and how to negotiate boundaries to safely participate in a scene. Do you want to learn about the ins and outs of bondage, or impact play? Are you interested in learning how to safely top a friend or loved one? This class will discuss all of those things and more.

Sir Wieland and Cat are well established and respected members of the Milwaukee BDSM community. In addition to teaching several classes here each year, they are regular presenters at several kink and BDSM conferences and events throughout the Midwest.

$15 per person. Register here.


Tickling, Teasing and Touch: Creating a Consent Culture in Your Home
with Lucky Tomaszek, LM, CPM
Sunday, March 15, 10 am
This is a morning class!

Learning how to say 'no' can be a very complicated thing for kids in our culture. As parents, we often feel resentful or amused (or both!) when our 2 year olds yell "NO!" across the room several times a day. We encourage them to share their toys with their friends and siblings, even when they have very strong feelings about it. Additionally, parents often neglect themselves to meet the needs of the family, which underscores the notion that other people are always more important than the individual. These, and many other cultural messages, make the very concept of consent difficult for children to really understand.

In this workshop, Lucky will talk about the language of consent, as well as some basic house rules that allow your children to understand the importance of respect while also honoring their bodily autonomy. We'll discuss how to set boundaries for ourselves and still meet a young child's high need for touch and interaction, all of which will help promote a consent culture in your home.

Lucky Tomaszek is a licensed midwife and sexuality educator living in Milwaukee. In addition to her current role as education coordinator at The Tool Shed, Cream City's education-based, mission-driven sex toy store, she has a long background as a birth worker, La Leche League Leader, and published columnist. She is the author of the semi-monthly column "MKE SEX", published by Milwaukee Record, and is a contributor to "The Ultimate Guide to Sex Through Pregnancy and Motherhood" by Madison Young. Most mornings you can find her balancing her cat and her keyboard in her lap, doggedly trying to make the world a smarter, safer place for people of all genders, orientations and relationship groupings.

This is a FREE event. No registration is necessary.


MKE Poly Group
Wednesday, March 18, 8:00 pm

This monthly discussion group is open to anyone who is interested in exploring polyamorous, nonmonogamous, or open relationships. Regular meeting occur on the third Wednesday of each month, unless otherwise noted. Newcomers welcome. More information at www.meetup.com/Southeast-Wisconsin-Polyamory-discussion-group/FREE.


The Pegging Revolution: An Intro to Pegging
with Lyndzi Miller and Cooper Becket
Friday, March 27, 8:30 pm

Pegging is a term first coined by Dan Savage, and describes the act of a woman using a strap-on to penetrate her boyfriend, husband or other male partner. But pegging can be fun for lots of folks! Role-reversal, power play and butt sex can feel good, regardless of your orientation or identity!

Here at the Tool Shed we get questions about pegging every day. How do we do it? What are the right tools for the job? Does it actually feel good? I'm a straight guy, will pegging make me gay?

Lyndzi Miller, Tool Shed staff member and sexuality educator, and Cooper Becket, Life on the Swingset podcaster, will answer these questions and cover all of the basics of pegging, a sexual activity that is growing in popularity. They'll also talk about safety, male anatomy and the health benefits of being pegged. Yes folks, that's right. Taking it in the boot is actually good for you!

Lyndzi Miller has been a sexual educator at The Tool Shed: An Erotic Boutique since 2012, and is their current assistant manager. She established the Milwaukee Poly Group in 2008, facilitating discussion and support group meetings every month since. She also hosts the bi-weekly podcast, "Polyamory Uncensored," interviewing ethically non-monogamous folks on their polyamorous journeys. She is an avid knitter, a mother, a burlesque dancer, and a huge geek.

Cooper S. Beckett lives in Chicago with Elle, his wife, constant, and binary star, Egon, their ghost terrier, and black cat Willow. As a queer non-monogamous writer, Beckett endeavors to create characters that reflect the diverse lifestyles of his friends, his partners, and himself. From that mandate, he writes scary, silly, and sexy books and essays. Beginning his writing career as a podcaster as host of the Life on the Swingset Podcast and speaker in the sexuality education community, he wrote My Life on the Swingset, a memoir of his first five years in non-monogamy, then followed that up with two novels, A Life Less Monogamous, and Approaching the Swingularity. He has recently returned to his first love, the horror genre, with Osgood as Gone, and Osgood Riddance. Like Lydia Deetz, he has always thought himself strange and unusual, be it his perspective on sexuality, monogamy, politics, or where Elder Gods ought to fall in the hierarchy.

$20 per person. Register here.


Tool Shed Book Club
Sunday, April 5, 5:00 pm
April book selection:
Sissy by Jacob Tobia

Book description:
From the moment a doctor in Raleigh, North Carolina, put "male" on Jacob Tobia's birth certificate, everything went wrong. Alongside "male" came many other, far less neutral words: words that carried expectations about who Jacob was and who Jacob should be, words like "masculine" and "aggressive" and "cargo shorts" and "SPORTS!"

Naturally sensitive, playful, creative, and glitter-obsessed, as a child Jacob was given the label "sissy." In the two decades that followed, "sissy" joined forces with "gay," "trans," "nonbinary," and "too-queer-to-function" to become a source of pride and, today, a rallying cry for a much-needed gender revolution. Through revisiting their childhood and calling out the stereotypes that each of us have faced, Jacob invites us to rethink what we know about gender and offers a bold blueprint for a healed world–- one free from gender-based trauma and bursting with trans-inclusive feminism.

From Jacob's Methodist childhood and the hallowed halls of Duke University to the portrait-laden parlors of the White House, Sissy takes you on a gender odyssey you won't soon forget. Writing with the fierce honesty, wildly irreverent humor, and wrenching vulnerability that have made them a media sensation, Jacob shatters the long-held notion that people are easily sortable into "men" and "women." Sissy guarantees that you’ll never think about gender–- both other people's and your own–- the same way again.

Event description:
Each month the Tool Shed book club meets to discuss a book or other piece of writing that sheds light on sexuality today. Book club meetings are hosted by the Tool Shed staff, and we pick different readings based on group interests. Participants are welcome on a drop-in basis; a monthly commitment is not necessary. Please join us!

Upcoming book club selections are available for 20% off the cover price at the Tool Shed. Please help support the Tool Shed by purchasing your book club books with us!

This is a FREE event. Pre-registration is not necessary.


Flogging Basics
with Sir Wieland and Cat
Tuesday, April 7, 8:30 pm

It seems like anytime you see anything kinky in the media, there's a sexy person holding a flogger. But what do you actually do with it? Does flogging hurt? Does it feel good? Join us for a fun evening, and learn to use them both safely and effectively to enhance your play.

We'll talk about the pros and cons of different types of floggers, and look at the different materials used in their construction. We'll also discuss consent, as well as where and how to strike your partner. Sir Wieland will demostrate a few techniques with his partner cat.

Sir Wieland and cat are respected and much beloved BDSM educators living in Southeastern Wisconsin. With decades of practical experience, they bring skill and sensitivity to their classes.

$15 per person. Register here.


Tea Time
Sunday, April 12, 10:00 am - noon
Special shopping hours for trans and non-binary customers & their loved ones

Sometimes trans and nonbinary customers have in-depth questions about our products that can be hard to fully address during the everyday hustle and bustle of the Tool Shed’s regular store hours. Tea Time offers a relaxed space for trans and non-binary folks to ask questions and learn in a more focused environment. Partners and loved ones of trans and non-binary people are also welcome during Tea Time.

Tea Time is held on the 2nd Sunday of each month from 10:00 am to noon.

This event is free, no pre-registration required.


MKE Poly Group
Wednesday, April 15, 8:00 pm

This monthly discussion group is open to anyone who is interested in exploring polyamorous, nonmonogamous, or open relationships. Regular meeting occur on the third Wednesday of each month, unless otherwise noted. Newcomers welcome. More information at www.meetup.com/Southeast-Wisconsin-Polyamory-discussion-group/FREE.


Crafting Your Kinky Fantasy: Scenebuilding 101
with Nyx
Friday, April 17, 8:30 pm

New to playing with power dynamics and unsure where to start? Have some exciting, kinky ideas you're dying to explore and just need some guidance? This informative presentation will go over the basics of establishing and executing a scene successfully, from introducing your ideas to a potential partner to aftercare and post-scene debriefing. We will also talk about books and online resources you can read through at your own pace.

Nyx’s adventures in BDSM come from the top, bottom, and in between. She became active in the Milwaukee kink scene in 2010 and has been reading, studying, playing, and/or ranting about it ever since. Nyx also works at the Tool Shed on Milwaukee's east side and shares their mission of providing medically accurate and socially aware information on topics of sex and gender in a non-judgmental atmosphere to anyone who visits the store.

$15 per person. Register here.


Coloring Outside the Lines of Sexuality: Exploring Non-Monogamy and Yourself
with Cooper Becket
Friday, April 24, 8:30 pm

Cooper S. Beckett, author and co-creator of Life on the Swingset, talks about how sexual adventure impacts one's personal growth. Sharing stories, lessons he's learned, and strategies he's employed during his sexual adventuring, Cooper invites you to explore yourself. Coloring outside the lines of your sexuality and being curious about yourself while sexing can be another facet of the experience along with all the pleasure and fun!

As a queer non-monogamous writer, Cooper S. Beckett endeavors to create characters that reflect the diverse lifestyles of his friends, his partners, and himself. From that mandate, he writes scary, silly, and sexy books and essays. Beginning his writing career as a podcaster as host of the Life on the Swingset Podcast and speaker in the sexuality education community, he wrote My Life on the Swingset, a memoir of his first five years in non-monogamy, then followed that up with two novels that take a brutally honest look at swinging and polyamory, A Life Less Monogamous, and Approaching the Swingularity. Returning to his first love, the horror genre, with first Osgood as Gone, and now Osgood Riddance, has been like a homecoming. From a young age, his obsession with horror movies and books seriously concerned his mother. It probably still does. Given a choice, he would rather winter at the Overlook than the Waldorf. Like Lydia Deetz, he has always thought himself strange and unusual, be it his perspective on sexuality, monogamy, politics, or where Elder Gods ought to fall in the hierarchy.

He lives in Chicago with Elle, his wife, constant, and binary star, Egon, their ghost terrier, and black cat Willow.

$20 per person. Register here.


Tool Shed Book Club
Sunday, May 3, 5:00 pm
May book selection:
The Monster Under the Bed by JoEllen Notte

Book description:
Almost everyone has had some interaction with depression. Whether it's you, a family member, a friend, or a partner who is affected, depression has the potential to touch us all. Even so, many of us don't know how to handle depression becoming part of our love life and it can quickly become the monster under the bed.

From "you have to love yourself first," to "don't stick it in the crazy," to dead silence, popular responses to the topic leave much to be desired. But you're not alone and you can have successful relationships and satisfying sex with depression.

This exploration of how to navigate sex and relationships while coping with depression includes practical tips and real-life examples. Heavily informed by surveys and interviews with over 1,000 people, JoEllen Notte will help you understand how sexual function is affected by depression and what keeps us from effectively addressing it.

Event description:
Each month the Tool Shed book club meets to discuss a book or other piece of writing that sheds light on sexuality today. Book club meetings are hosted by the Tool Shed staff, and we pick different readings based on group interests. Participants are welcome on a drop-in basis; a monthly commitment is not necessary. Please join us!

Upcoming book club selections are available for 20% off the cover price at the Tool Shed. Please help support the Tool Shed by purchasing your book club books with us!

This is a FREE event. Pre-registration is not necessary.


Tea Time
Sunday, May 10, 10:00 am - noon
Special shopping hours for trans and non-binary customers & their loved ones

Sometimes trans and nonbinary customers have in-depth questions about our products that can be hard to fully address during the everyday hustle and bustle of the Tool Shed’s regular store hours. Tea Time offers a relaxed space for trans and non-binary folks to ask questions and learn in a more focused environment. Partners and loved ones of trans and non-binary people are also welcome during Tea Time.

Tea Time is held on the 2nd Sunday of each month from 10:00 am to noon.

This event is free, no pre-registration required.


MKE Poly Group
Wednesday, May 20, 8:00 pm

This monthly discussion group is open to anyone who is interested in exploring polyamorous, nonmonogamous, or open relationships. Regular meeting occur on the third Wednesday of each month, unless otherwise noted. Newcomers welcome. More information at www.meetup.com/Southeast-Wisconsin-Polyamory-discussion-group/FREE.


Tool Shed Book Club
Sunday, June 7, 5:00 pm
June book selection:
I Hope We Choose Love by Kai Cheng Thom

Book description:
What can we hope for at the end of the world? What can we trust in when community has broken our hearts? What would it mean to pursue justice without violence? How can we love in the absence of faith?

In a heartbreaking yet hopeful collection of personal essays and prose poems, blending the confessional, political, and literary, Kai Cheng Thom dives deep into the questions that haunt social movements today. With the author's characteristic eloquence and honesty, I Hope We Choose Love proposes heartfelt solutions on the topics of violence, complicity, family, vengeance, and forgiveness. Taking its cues from contemporary thought leaders in the transformative justice movement such as adrienne maree brown and Leah Lakshmi Piepzna-Samarasinha, this provocative book is a call for nuance in a time of political polarization, for healing in a time of justice, and for love in an apocalypse.

Event description:
Each month the Tool Shed book club meets to discuss a book or other piece of writing that sheds light on sexuality today. Book club meetings are hosted by the Tool Shed staff, and we pick different readings based on group interests. Participants are welcome on a drop-in basis; a monthly commitment is not necessary. Please join us!

Upcoming book club selections are available for 20% off the cover price at the Tool Shed. Please help support the Tool Shed by purchasing your book club books with us!

This is a FREE event. Pre-registration is not necessary.


Tea Time
Sunday, June 14, 10:00 am - noon
Special shopping hours for trans and non-binary customers & their loved ones

Sometimes trans and nonbinary customers have in-depth questions about our products that can be hard to fully address during the everyday hustle and bustle of the Tool Shed’s regular store hours. Tea Time offers a relaxed space for trans and non-binary folks to ask questions and learn in a more focused environment. Partners and loved ones of trans and non-binary people are also welcome during Tea Time.

Tea Time is held on the 2nd Sunday of each month from 10:00 am to noon.

This event is free, no pre-registration required.


MKE Poly Group
Wednesday, June 17, 8:00 pm

This monthly discussion group is open to anyone who is interested in exploring polyamorous, nonmonogamous, or open relationships. Regular meeting occur on the third Wednesday of each month, unless otherwise noted. Newcomers welcome. More information at www.meetup.com/Southeast-Wisconsin-Polyamory-discussion-group/FREE.


Tool Shed Book Club
Sunday, July 5, 5:00 pm
July book selection:
Love's Not Color Blind by Kevin A. Patterson

Book description:
Polyamory, however compassionate an alternative to monogamy, still operates and is rooted in a racist society. The things that make monogamous dating daunting for people of color-- shaming and exclusion by white partners, being fetishized, having realities of everyday racism ignored-- occur in polyamorous relationships too, but are often exacerbated by societal misconceptions of polyamory as a game of "collecting" different kinds of lovers.

When these behaviors are unacknowledged and unchecked, polyamory isn't a more inclusive or compassionate relationship style. Agreeing to "not be racist" or, worse, trying "not to see race" only makes it worse. To make polyamorous communities inclusive, we must all take ownership, acknowledge our part in perpetuating racism, and listen to people of color.

These conversations can be difficult and (if we're being honest) self-incriminating. But they are necessary for us to build a better alternative.

Love's Not Color Blind puts forward the framework-- through research, anecdotal testimony, and analogy-- for understanding, identifying, and ultimately confronting the manifestations of racism within polyamorous communities.

Whether you're a community leader or you just like to date a lot, this is an invaluable tool for creating a more inclusive polyamory.

Event description:
Each month the Tool Shed book club meets to discuss a book or other piece of writing that sheds light on sexuality today. Book club meetings are hosted by the Tool Shed staff, and we pick different readings based on group interests. Participants are welcome on a drop-in basis; a monthly commitment is not necessary. Please join us!

Upcoming book club selections are available for 20% off the cover price at the Tool Shed. Please help support the Tool Shed by purchasing your book club books with us!

This is a FREE event. Pre-registration is not necessary.


Tea Time
Sunday, July 12, 10:00 am - noon
Special shopping hours for trans and non-binary customers & their loved ones

Sometimes trans and nonbinary customers have in-depth questions about our products that can be hard to fully address during the everyday hustle and bustle of the Tool Shed’s regular store hours. Tea Time offers a relaxed space for trans and non-binary folks to ask questions and learn in a more focused environment. Partners and loved ones of trans and non-binary people are also welcome during Tea Time.

Tea Time is held on the 2nd Sunday of each month from 10:00 am to noon.

This event is free, no pre-registration required.


MKE Poly Group
Wednesday, July 15, 8:00 pm

This monthly discussion group is open to anyone who is interested in exploring polyamorous, nonmonogamous, or open relationships. Regular meeting occur on the third Wednesday of each month, unless otherwise noted. Newcomers welcome. More information at www.meetup.com/Southeast-Wisconsin-Polyamory-discussion-group/FREE.


Tool Shed Book Club
Sunday, August 2, 5:00 pm
August book selection:
Making Spaces Safer by Shawna Potter

Book description:
Shawna Potter, singer for the band War On Women, has tackled sexism and harassment in lyrics and on stage for years. Taking the battle to music venues themselves, she has trained night clubs and community spaces in how to create safer environments for marginalized people. Now she's turned decades of experience into a clear and concise guide for public spaces of all sorts, from art galleries to bagel shops to concert halls, that want to shut down harassers wherever they show up. The steps she outlines are realistic, practical, and actionable. With the addition of personal stories, case studies, sample policies, and no-nonsense advice like "How to Flirt without Being a Creep," she shows why safer spaces are important, while making it easier to achieve them. Eschewing theory, she assumes the reader is already an ethical creature and jumps right in with candor, punk passion, and righteous anger to get the job done.

Event description:
Each month the Tool Shed book club meets to discuss a book or other piece of writing that sheds light on sexuality today. Book club meetings are hosted by the Tool Shed staff, and we pick different readings based on group interests. Participants are welcome on a drop-in basis; a monthly commitment is not necessary. Please join us!

Upcoming book club selections are available for 20% off the cover price at the Tool Shed. Please help support the Tool Shed by purchasing your book club books with us!

This is a FREE event. Pre-registration is not necessary.


Tea Time
Sunday, August 9, 10:00 am - noon
Special shopping hours for trans and non-binary customers & their loved ones

Sometimes trans and nonbinary customers have in-depth questions about our products that can be hard to fully address during the everyday hustle and bustle of the Tool Shed’s regular store hours. Tea Time offers a relaxed space for trans and non-binary folks to ask questions and learn in a more focused environment. Partners and loved ones of trans and non-binary people are also welcome during Tea Time.

Tea Time is held on the 2nd Sunday of each month from 10:00 am to noon.

This event is free, no pre-registration required.


MKE Poly Group
Wednesday, August 19, 8:00 pm

This monthly discussion group is open to anyone who is interested in exploring polyamorous, nonmonogamous, or open relationships. Regular meeting occur on the third Wednesday of each month, unless otherwise noted. Newcomers welcome. More information at www.meetup.com/Southeast-Wisconsin-Polyamory-discussion-group/FREE.


Tool Shed Book Club
Sunday, September 6, 5:00 pm
September book selection:
Good Sexual Citizenship by Ellen Friedrichs

Book description:
Most of us want to be decent people in the world. Yet when it comes to sex, we so often stumble and contribute to sexual injustice. Think about it: are we really still blaming victims of sexual assaults? Can it truly be that there is a gender based orgasm gap? Are we actually labeling people based on the kind of sex they do or don’t have? Why do we insist on questioning if sex is consensual when someone’s passed out drunk?

Our society is undergoing an evolution, and we should take this as a call to action to ensure that all people, regardless of gender identity, sexual orientation, ability, age, ethnicity, race, religion, or social class, are treated as humans worthy of respect.

Good Sexual Citizenship asks us all to break down sexual hostility and build up something better. To promote understanding and empathy, Friedrichs includes a factual and historical backdrop covering gender disparities, women’s rights, sexual violence, prevention, and sex education, and challenges readers to use this insight, along with guided exercises, to examine their own potential for “good sexual citizenship.” Covering topics like consent, sexual assault, pleasure, double standards, casual sex, hook-up culture, and teen sex, she provides us with tools to navigate societal messages, sexually hostile climates, stereotypes, and outdated mentalities.

This book is written for anyone—but especially educators, parents, fellow students, coworkers, and employers—who have helplessly looked around in the midst of some type of sexual injustice wondering, “What can I do?”

Event description:
Each month the Tool Shed book club meets to discuss a book or other piece of writing that sheds light on sexuality today. Book club meetings are hosted by the Tool Shed staff, and we pick different readings based on group interests. Participants are welcome on a drop-in basis; a monthly commitment is not necessary. Please join us!

Upcoming book club selections are available for 20% off the cover price at the Tool Shed. Please help support the Tool Shed by purchasing your book club books with us!

This is a FREE event. Pre-registration is not necessary.


Tea Time
Sunday, September 13, 10:00 am - noon
Special shopping hours for trans and non-binary customers & their loved ones

Sometimes trans and nonbinary customers have in-depth questions about our products that can be hard to fully address during the everyday hustle and bustle of the Tool Shed’s regular store hours. Tea Time offers a relaxed space for trans and non-binary folks to ask questions and learn in a more focused environment. Partners and loved ones of trans and non-binary people are also welcome during Tea Time.

Tea Time is held on the 2nd Sunday of each month from 10:00 am to noon.

This event is free, no pre-registration required.


MKE Poly Group
Wednesday, September 16, 8:00 pm

This monthly discussion group is open to anyone who is interested in exploring polyamorous, nonmonogamous, or open relationships. Regular meeting occur on the third Wednesday of each month, unless otherwise noted. Newcomers welcome. More information at www.meetup.com/Southeast-Wisconsin-Polyamory-discussion-group/FREE.